For many years, we have been constantly presented with the idea that sex is defined only as "in-and-out" and that everything else is just preliminaries. This simplified and limiting view of sex has led to many confusions and frustrations. For example, questions like: "So, how do lesbians have sex?" and frustrations as real as: "I can't achieve vaginal orgasms, is there something wrong with me and will I never be able to feel pleasure?"
đ¸ đ It's time to stop and talk about the elephant in the room. đ đ¸
âď¸ Understanding coitocentrism
Let's be clear: coitocentrism is a tale that has been sold to us, but it's just that, a tale. Our bodies are full of zones and corners designed to bring us pleasure. We shouldn't believe the story that only "in-and-out" is real sex. Because it isn't: kisses, caresses, oral sex, anal sex, a lot of love to the clitoris... These are just some of the wonderful practices that bring pleasure and they are all part of sex!
âď¸ Why is coitocentrism a problem?
Coitocentrism leads to a narrow view of sex that can cause many emotional and psychological issues. People may feel incomplete or frustrated if they don't achieve orgasms solely through vaginal penetration. This view also ignores many other forms of pleasure and intimacy that can be just as satisfying.
âď¸ The myth of vaginal orgasm
The notion that vaginal orgasms are the pinnacle of sexual satisfaction is not only misleading but also damaging. Many women struggle with achieving vaginal orgasms and feel inadequate as a result. It's important to understand that the clitoris, with its 8,000 nerve endings, is a significant source of female pleasure. Focusing on clitoral stimulation can lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences.
âď¸ Exploring the pleasure zones
Our bodies are filled with various zones and corners designed to give us pleasure. By focusing solely on penetration, we miss out on a wide range of enjoyable and fulfilling sexual experiences. Here are some alternative practices that can bring immense pleasure:
Kisses and caresses: Kisses and caresses can be very intimate and satisfying. Don't limit yourself to one area, explore the entire body. Touch and affection can build intimacy and increase arousal.
Oral sex: Oral sex is another wonderful way to enjoy intimacy. It can be just as satisfying as vaginal or anal sex. Communication with your partner about what feels good is key to enhancing this experience.
Love to the clitoris: The clitoris is one of the most sensitive areas of the body. Give it the attention it deserves and discover the pleasure it can bring. Clitoral orgasms can be incredibly powerful and satisfying.
Anal sex: For those who are interested, anal sex can be another way to explore pleasure. It's important to approach it with care, using plenty of lubrication and communication with your partner.
Role-playing and fantasies: Sometimes, introducing role-playing or exploring fantasies can add a new dimension to your sexual experiences. It's a way to break free from routine and discover new aspects of your sexuality.
Sex toys: Incorporating sex toys can enhance your sexual experiences. Whether it's a vibrator, dildo, or other device, these tools can add variety and increase pleasure.
âď¸ Tips for enjoying your body 100%
To fully embrace a broader view of sexual pleasure, here are some tips:
Explore your body: Take the time to learn what feels good for you. Masturbation can be a great way to discover your preferences and share them with your partner.
Communicate openly: Talk with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and what brings you pleasure. Open communication is crucial for a satisfying sexual experience.
Let go of expectations: Release the pressure to perform or achieve a specific outcome. Focus on the journey and the sensations rather than the destination.
Be present: Mindfulness can enhance sexual pleasure. Being fully present in the moment allows you to enjoy the experience more deeply.
Educate yourself: Read books or blogs, watch videos, and attend workshops on sexual pleasure and health. Knowledge is empowering and can help you feel more confident in exploring new practices.
âď¸ Healthy communication
Open and honest communication with your partner is essential. Discussing your desires, boundaries, and preferences can lead to more fulfilling and consensual sexual experiences. It's important to feel safe and respected in your sexual relationships.
âď¸ Self-discovery and masturbation
Masturbation is a healthy way to explore your own body and understand what brings you pleasure. It's an opportunity to learn about your own sexual responses without the pressure of pleasing a partner. Self-discovery can lead to more confidence and better sexual experiences with others.
Coitocentrism is limiting and doesn't reflect the true diversity of human sexuality. It's time to free ourselves from these limitations and discover new ways of pleasure. Embracing a broader view of sex can lead to more satisfying and enriching sexual experiences.
If you want to learn more about this topic and get more tips on how to enjoy your body to the fullest, read the full article on our blog. You can find the link in our profile.
Don't be selfish and share this discovery with those who might need it. Sex is much more than just "in-and-out." Let's discover and enjoy it to the fullest!
With love,
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